Dating Advice for Men

Does meeting with women seems like a WORK to you?

And how does it feel that despite of all your hard work
you’re still not getting the success you’re looking for?

If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ
ON.

Honestly, going for a date can be quite frustrating.

You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.

Everything is going smooth and fine between you and a woman
and then just suddenly she’s not returning or answering your
calls.

Aside from the fact that as the guy you are the one that do
everything in order to move things forward.

YOU have to have the courage to approach.

YOU have to keep the conversation going at first, YOU have
to escalate physically, YOU have to get HER number or rack
your brain to figure out a logistical way to take her home,
YOU have to plan the date.

Not to mention there are much higher standards for men’s
behavior than women.

(Let’s not started on that…let’s just say women are
allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they
are “beautiful.”)

That can be debilitating, especially if you don’t have an
“extroverted” trait.

…I just had a client who often complained of “extroversion
fatigue.”

I used to struggle with that too that’s why I knew exactly
what he meant.

Before I started to teach myself about pick-up, and then
found myself being mentally DRAINED after talking to three
or four women.

What I do is to have a sit and rest!

Come to think how strange the situation is, I am supposed to
have fun and relax but instead I am working harder than I
was at my full time job.

I would go home and be absolutely DEAD

… from having a CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN!

That things makes any sense???

There you see the general dating fatigue. There’s an ups and
downs in the emotions, results that is discouraging, in the
hard work that I make just to get women to hang out with me
or be in bed with me.

It was like a full time job and I was working overtime!

The first time I got into this game I had force myself to go
out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I was a nerd, I
admit that, and had pushed it to the extreme.)

All I can say is that I have this passion in learning those
stuff (very eager for the outcome after years of sensual
frustration)

I would push myself like professional athletes push
themselves in the gym.

I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS and working on my muscles
that I’ve never done before.

If you are working too hard in your interactions with women.
then you can relate to any of this.

There are three reasons for this.

The first reason is may be new to you - being socially
proactive.

As I can remember, I don’t have a pectoral muscles - (the
one that is right at the top of your chest just under the
clavicle that makes the chest look bigger)  before I started
lifting weights.

Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I
can’t even feel them. So every time worked them out I was
incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took
me three good weeks to really feel them.

And then I reached the point where the muscle was developed
that I could handle heavy weight without all the fatigue and
soreness. Same as in your mind.

It takes time to develop these new neuro-pathways on your
own. If you’re not pushing yourself HARD day in-day out, it
can take awhile, depending on your skill level.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you
think there’s too much to do or learn when meeting women.

This is actually a little different from “fatigue.” It’s
more like feeling overwhelmed.

Being overwhelmed by certain thing can cause exhaustion to
your mind that can lead to some sort of discouragement and
depression. It’s somewhat saying “ugh, I’ve had enough of
this too much. I’m giving up”

This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from
this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my
theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was
looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.

It was daunting to think that I had to DO all this stuff
just to have quality women in my life.

Lastly, you will feel socially exhausted for your dating and
mating game, when you spend a lot of effort and focus on
stuff in wrong situation and find out it was not helpful to
your pick-up.

Many men fails in attracting women and in fact almost 99% of
men gets it wrong. Usually the women can’t tell because most
men after a harsh rejections learn to keep their inner
“stuff” to their self.

But this doesn’t negate the fact that when the average guy
is attracted to a woman, he spends his mental energy on
trying to impress her, or figure out if she likes him.

Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents
and friends, and women - it’s the man’s role to IMPRESS the
woman and EARN “getting in bed” from her.

Ridiculous!

I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling
around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a
fool while she giggles like she’s better than him because
she’s a girl.

Ok enough ranting…  the point is that most guys are
screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating
lives.

The matter of attraction for a guy will be change if he will
only takes the time to adjust the way his mind works.

You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that
it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction
with women and that’s what’s really attractive.

A MAN AT HIS BEST.

Let me share with you the topic about One Night Stand.

Before I don’t really know how to do the one night stands,
and I started to understand how easy it is to apply after I
have used a couple of solid pickups.

Looking back, I realize now that those initial successes
were the start of a major “bad belief overhaul.”

I started to think that women wants to be hookup and that
they really wanted me

I am having some confidence that I was that desirable and
attractive to women eventhough I know that I am far the one
considered as good-looking .

Now about 75% of my students come to me with one main goal -
they want to sleep with more women.

And the remaining are looking for someone special that
really suits in their lifestyle. As what I have said, this
goal is not mutually exclusive.

You see, in order to find that special girl and to have the
best choice, you should see and go out with a bunch of good
women.

And if you don’t know how to meet women, this can be a
daunting task.

One of the common phase that every good pickup artist goes
through when they gets started. Where he to learn to thinks
of new ways and behavior and then start to meet and sleep
with a BUNCH OF WOMEN.

Just like a kid in a candy store, making a full advantage of
his new powers!

This period of learning is necessary, or at least it was for
me in order to snap out of my old way of thinking, and
internalize my new reality - that I am attractive and woman
want to sleep with me.

So it’s important that you have a few really fast, casual
sensual encounters, in order to get the ball rolling on
forming new beliefs.

I’m telling about a same day lays or a one-night stand.

If haven’t had any experience on one-night stand, or maybe
you got lucky when you were drunk, having a one-night
’stands at-will’ can have the same as having a great
girlfriend that is out of reach.

Actually if you know what you are doing, it will be all
easy.

But the sad thing is, there are many men that make things
too hard for themselves and never be able to get the first
sexual experience that will make them feel like “natural.”

If you’re reading this, then you are interested in getting
not only BETTER with woman, but you want to MASTER THE GAME.

Mastery comes from within - it starts with a mindset, and
leads to external results, which then form NEW BELIEFS in
your mind.

Your new beliefs will become the foundation in building and
facing the new reality in your life, you will then naturally
attract many women without even thinking and doing fancy
lines and routines.

First of all, you can’t always get the hottest woman in the
venue to go home with you for a one-night stand.

Bringing a girl home doesn’t based on whether she is open or
not in going home with a guy, sure maybe you can her number
but it varies widely on particular night.

However, there are LOTS of horny women moving around the
clubs and bar anytime of the day that are open in getting
lay that same day or night. And all you have to do is have a
knowledge and ability to spot them.

Some of the few things that you should look for are on the
way how they dressed up and on the way how they put some
make-up. Many women exerts a lot of hard work just to look
beautiful. And you know there is a reason for it.

The reason is they want to be approached. Although it isn’t
always true but is generally the case.

I also look for women who are being loud and animated. They
are subconsciously looking for attention from men.

Lastly, another good prospect are woman that are looking
around the room more than the other girls that she’s with.
Also a group of two or three women all standing around with
blank expressions, scoping the room are another prospect.

They are basically putting themselves out there, waiting for
someone to approach them.

Just take these in mind, that when you approach you don’t go
into full-steam running your clever routines and cocky frame
control stuff.  You have to take it easy.

A simple “hey, you guys look great tonight. Special
occasion?” is enough. It’s just have to be social,  delicate
and showing that you are interested in meeting them.

You should not openly discuss to the woman that you are
looking to take her home and get her into bed. Because, if
you talk about that, you’re putting a woman to a point where
is to agree to implicitly bang with you.

Rather you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss
heavily in our workshops.

This will be against a woman’s “rules” and she’ll definitely
be keeping distance from you. And you really need a logistic
information to know how you can get her back to your place.

The real key to all this is subtracting any overt sensual
intention, and not trying to pick her up.

Just enjoy yourself while escalating appropriately and have
a willingness to control the situation.

This is how it will works although it may sound that counter
intuitive.

You have to trust that women wants to get in bed, and that a
lot of the women in the venue wants to lay NOW.

Some won’t, but some will, and that’s why it’s key that you
get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.

You don’t want to put a lot of effort and time with the
wrong girl or to pick the right girl and then mess it up
after a very long interaction.

That’s a HUGE waste of time.

The next storytelling technique that I am about to share is adding TOUCH to your stories.

This technique is very powerful and ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.
 
This one really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved.
 
An example of this would be like “My friend and I were walking over there like this… (lock arm in arm).”
 
An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be “I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).

Only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story. If you are using something like the arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short time, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm.

The key for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any type of reaction.
 
Another fun thing to add into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.
 
These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
 
These are all essential ways to boost up your stories. This really not needed but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.
 
Most often I used mentioning other girls in my stories. You can do this by changing the word “friend” to “girlfriend” or name dropping by saying “my friends Jane and Sarah” anything along those lines.
 
They are just minor details. They just need to be subtle and never the focus of your story..
 
Do not provide an explanation for them to make them theme authentic, . If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don’t provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it’s not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
 
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
 
Cut off all unnecessary content and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don’t affect the overall story. Be sure to avoid redundancies.
 
Right now…you should be aiming for about 2 minutes stories.
 
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills. A masterful storyteller could captivate the audience attention for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.
 
Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.
 
Make sure you always keep an eye contact to your audience, this will help hold the their attention.

If we look back at the original example of…
 
“So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”
 
We can make it awesome by adding this techniques right now.

So here is the FINAL revised version of my story. Enjoy:
 
Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”
 
Group: “blah blah”
 
Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)…Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
 
Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place… kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
 
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa’s friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this…(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty…thick breath….oh it was terrible.
 
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway… my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).
 
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table… and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
 
Little did he know… that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened… it was full… so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
 
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
 
It looked like he wet his pants!
 
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again… I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious!
 
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
 
Through these steps you can see the dramatic changes it can bring to any story.
 
But before I end with this letter… I want to leave you with a couple of advanced story telling tips that you add in your story.

- Do not memorize your stories. I know you don’t want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it…but don’t become a scripted narrator.
 
- If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.

- The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
 
- Avoid pauses like “ummmm and ugghhh” everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
 
- Always be painting a picture, appeal to all the senses when possible.
 
- Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton’s character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.
 
- Lastly and most important to sum things up….
 
Tell your stories TO your audience and not AT your audience…

As you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for. Make sure they are always getting involved.
 
Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to keep your story moving. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

I what to share with you today a very powerful technique that ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.
 
This technique is about adding TOUCH to your stories.
 
This really helps paint the picture of your story and get your audience more involved.
 
An example of this would be like “My friend and I were walking over there like this… (lock arm in arm).”
 
Only hold whatever touch you are demonstrating for the suitable part of the story. If you are using something like the arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short span, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm.
 
An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be “I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).
 
Make sure it won’t look obvious. And the key not to look that way is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.
 
Another fun thing to add a spike on your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.
 
These include mentioning other girls in your life, having special social privileges, being the head of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
 
These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories… without actually bragging. Now you don’t really need these but in some instance it can can add a special spike to your stories.
 
Usually I often do mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word “friend” to “girlfriend” or name dropping like “my friends Lisa and Sarah” anything along those lines.

They are just minor details and never be the subject of your story.  And these need to be subtle.
 
Do not provide an explanation for them to make it theme authentic. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don’t provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it’s not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
 
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
 
Be sure to eliminate all redundancies and unnecessary content.  And make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don’t affect the overall story.
 
For this time… you should be aiming for about 2 minutes stories.
 
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. A masterful storyteller could capture their audience attentions for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.
 
Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.
 
Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.

Let’s have the revised version of my story but before that lets take a look at the original example of…
 
“So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”
 
So here is the FINAL revised version. Enjoy:
 
Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”
 
Group: “blah blah”
 
Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)…Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
 
Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place… kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
 
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa’s friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this…(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty…thick breath….oh it was terrible.
 
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway… my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).
 
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table… and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
 
Little did he know… that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened… it was full… so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
 
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
 
It looked like he wet his pants!
 
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again… I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious!
 
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
 
There you see the dramatic changes these techniques can make to any story.
 
But there’s a couple of advanced story telling tips that I want to leave with you.
 
- Increase your vocabulary if you are telling the same story, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.
 
- Always be painting a picture, appeal if possible appeal to all the senses.

- The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
 
- Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton’s character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.

 -Do not memorize your stories. You don’t want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it…but don’t become a scripted narrator.

- Avoid pauses like “ummmm and ugghhh” everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
 
- Lastly and most important to sum things up….
 
Tell your stories TO your audience and NOT AT your audience…t
 
Be sure that your audience are always getting involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.
 
Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

Hey guys,  this is “Part II” of the storytelling newsletter.

As a recap in ‘part I’ we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically.

Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

To start with in “Part I” there were two things I asked of you

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

We are going to start out working with these things.

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and make them down to 5 solid ideas, remove the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were “you kind of had to be there” stories.

Now reflect on that 5 solid ideas, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

And then focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

For now, The target of your stories are women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I know there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your it easier for you.

As I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, having all 3 of my stories will take so much time so we are just going to use one of my story ideas and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I’m going to share all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a best example)

“So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”

Okay, pretty boring story…I know, but we can turn this into something awesome.

First thing we need to do is to understand the 3 components of a good story.

- The first component, is “The Hook Question”

This is the line you deliver to introduce your story and you use the hook question to captivate the attention of the group.

And the object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved.

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of everyone in the group before you start with your story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

There are two different types of hook questions.

An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.

I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be “How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?”

A possible yes or no hook question would be “Have you ever been to club voodoo?”

So let’s add this to the story… (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)

Fore my story I’ll like to use open ended hook questions. So to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just can’t get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo…(rest of story)

Now that we have the hook question down, lets go now the next component.

- The second component is to demonstrate personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

Here are my 5 things:

I am a very social person
I am a musician
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography

Now what we are going to do is try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may demonstrates a lot about yourself.

Other ways to demonstrate personality is to act out your characters. It will bring life to you story.

Another important ways in expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You be able to know how to build up the tension of excitement or else your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality…

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can’t to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends. So to solve for that lets check on the last component of a story.

The last component of story is the punch line.

A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it’s over. It can be one line or much more…

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy’s part and I don’t want to associate myself with friends like that. Also…a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining…after all…it’s a “STORY”

So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway…my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table…and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know…that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened…it was full…so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again…I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

Now if you apply and use these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.

HOWEVER….there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of most successful storyteller.

The first and most important is creating check in points.

Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

Examples are “That ever happen to you?” “Don’t you hate when that happens?” “You know what I mean?”

Just make sure they sounds not obvious or like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. “Kind of like that over there” “Reminds me of her (point to person).”

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won’t need one near the end.

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

An example in a passage of my story would be:

“Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing….kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar).”

You don’t always need a full response for a check in points. A nod is perfectly okay in regaining the focus of the audience.

Today I will talk about Storytelling.  This is a topic that I feel very important and powerful when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only in girls but anyone in your life.

When used correctly, it will surely make your desirability with women sky rocket.

Before I debunk the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

It’s all up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.

Even if the girls does know that your story is untrue, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation subjects developed from your stories.

I’m not telling you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in “Role Playing” and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in “Role Play Conversations” raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

I think the biggest misconception here is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to demonstrate things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, humor, dominance,  interests, and over all personality.

In applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a way that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth Two: Once you get better with girls you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting manner that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the main reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with girls, but your overall social ability.

What is storytelling?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with “The Canterbury Tales” by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don’t worry; your stories don’t have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer’s do)

Why is storytelling important

There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently using storytelling then consider these following facts:

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like “Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you).”

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

If you have a funny story that can be humorous in hearing then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it’s a silly story write it down. You can’t be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can’t think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

There are lots of things happen in one day that people don’t even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your personality and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Now keep this list for we are going to use it a in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

Keep an eye out for the next letter and be ready to take your storytelling to the next level.

I caught a recent episode of Mystery’s the Pick Up Artist which was aired on VH1 a few weeks ago. And wanted to share with you guys my predictions about it.

I liked:

The Students. In general I love pick up students. They are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do. They’re always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make.

The Ridiculous Outfits of Mystery. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don’t believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It’s a  trainwreck.

The Challenges.  Fun, creative and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

I didn’t like:

J-Dog’s hair. I don’t think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail… He’s so attached to his structured method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out… “Yeah he should have used a false time constraint”. How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like “flossing before you brush etc..” Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for GOOD reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you’ll get the girl to answer your question, but that’s not always what I call PROGRESS. If you’re going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

Here’s some of my predictions to the four guys:

Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery’s tuleage. He’s got that “inner flame” that drives him to excel at different things, but he’s going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He’s still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He’s got the attitude down, but he’s the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He’ll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don’t see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He’s chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what’s holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he’ll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he’s gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He’s in the friend zone still. Doesn’t matter if he got that chick’s number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He’s interesting but… too interesting. It’s giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc…

Overall, the show is fun and entertaining. I will definitely be trying to see another episode of it.