Dating Advice for Men

I really started to get good, and could escalate with any woman very quickly, I think about all the women I slept with but couldn’t keep around.

And that is a bit sad.

There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.

But I had my head up my ass.

…maybe that’s a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I’ve accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But…

Do you think girls have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all relative.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

If you don’t accept yourself, women won’t accept you also.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don’t like yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I’m no exception.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are.

Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.”  I don’t agree. That’s not you.

That is the vague you.

That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.

Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn’t keep girls around after sleeping with them.

I wasn’t aware of shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, it’s self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend.  It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.