Dating Advice for Men

And that is a bit sad.

There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.

But I had my head up my ass.

…maybe that’s a little harsh.

But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:

First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I’ve accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But…

Do you think girls have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all relative.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

If you don’t accept yourself, women won’t accept you also.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don’t like yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I’m no exception.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because being yourself and not doubting yourself is the game. And game doesn’t stop after your opener, after making love, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separated from your game.

Your game IS YOU. The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are.

Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.”  I don’t agree. That’s not you.

That is the vague you.

That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.

Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn’t keep girls around after sleeping with them.

I wasn’t aware of shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, it’s self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it’s not really her fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend.  It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

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…OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave
to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote,  “He thinks
with his… You know.”

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are
physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and
affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally
faced is balancing the two - my urges and
achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of
time. If you don’t know what you’re doing,
women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in
the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…
there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality
time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU

DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it’s their NATURE to take up a man’s
time - it’s her way of getting you to invest
in her. That way there’s less chance of you
leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from
our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with
women. You see, giving their time to women is
what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are
“givers.” They like to please women, protect
them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take
over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the
most of your life, your time.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this,
“WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or
“control over my life,” or “lots of my free
time.”

It was probably something like “feeling of
safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,
excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel
good about herself, etc.”

There are two ways that I think why men have
problems with how they use their time with
women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff -
like spending too much time or money on a
woman because they think that the gifts they

REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.

Second, men think that they are “getting”
something valuable when a woman spends her
time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe
that women are a prize to attain, and that
there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s a LIE!

The best thing is to see women for what they
are, nothing more, nothing less. They are
cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that
important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this
mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to
notice because you’ve been doing them for
years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is
crude and silly, and that it is just a favor
that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There’s a syndrome that I call a “doofus dad”
syndrome. There’s another societal factor going
on, . In almost every TV commercial and
sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband”
is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the
mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her
superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of
the women is more valuable than men because of
the perception that women are “better.”

You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT
OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.

But here’s the thing - if you are giving a
woman too much time, you won’t be present for
most of that time. You will be distracted,
resentful, you will give her your “half-assed”
attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of
dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION
to women even though I’m only giving a smaller
amounts of my time.

Not only did this make our time better, it
created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left
women craving more.

Now my women can’t get enough of me - in fact,
I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”

You see, “enough” would mean, “overexposure”
to me, and women can’t be pulled to what they
already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being
HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play
games with women and pretend to be busy or
whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl -
and don’t spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women
but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that
you are able to meet a lot of women, which

I’ll have to cover in another newsletter.

It makes me sad to see men waste their lives
chasing and “putting up with” women, and then
they are buried in their coffin ALONE.

Women aren’t property that you can keep or
somehow take with you when you die. Think
about that.

You can’t “keep” a woman by investing all your
time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being
honest with the amount of time you are willing
give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you
will feel it on your own. That’s ok, it just
means that you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will
usually from the social norm.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the
values others try to impose onto you, you will
most likely experience some discomfort,
tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That’s why I set and develop the Attraction
Code. It’s all about self-control, finding
true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge
from within.

And no, we don’t try to impose our values or
goals onto you. We think you’ll be able to do
that for yourself, given the proper guidance.

Vin

But before anything else, let’s go waaaay back…

It was in my high school, that there was a girl in my class who was seems so perfect.

She was smart, cool, and so beautiful it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn’t look away)…

She was one of the popular kids, but was friendly to everyone.

Occasionally we talked and as I look back I realize that we were flirting (I was so stupid to realize at that time).

I badly wanted to ask her to a senior prom but I chickened out at the last minute.

A few years later I realized she had a crush on me all senior year.

I have talked to lot of men and this seems a common experience to them. they missed an opportunity to meet this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, or the girl had broke their heart…

Ah, the hard to tame “10,” a perfect girl that every guy dream of but never seems to have it.

I have a lot to say about the concept of “10’s,” In deeper sense they are another “breed” of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your “perfect girl.”

First of all, the concept of a “10″ is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more “valuable” just because she looks nicer than other women.

A woman that turns you on and have a great chemistry with you is the only true “10″ and is the one that’s perfect for you.

Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10’s, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because a lot of guys do that.

A woman knows what you’re thinking and sees you as shallow.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another “level” of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

This is important to understand so that you know how to deal with these kinds of women.

As what I’ve said,  you shouldn’t treat women “differently.”

Let me clear this up.

You shouldn’t treat them BETTER than other women. But there are a couple things you need to know.

First, she don’t like a guy that chases her for her looks alone.

More than anything else, a woman values a guy that appreciates her personality.

Now for the sake of yours, I”ll be giving you a heads up.

There are two types of “10’s.”

The high self-esteem, and the low self-esteem.

The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10’s. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn’t EARN that attention.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sound harsh but I call it like that.

These women take away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back. They also respond to jerk-behavior.

Anything.

(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Now high self-esteem 10’s are women that have had a taste of the elite -they realized early on that high levels of society were attainable to them, and they made an effort to be successful, intelligent, and make the most of their lives.

These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.

Usually these women have good attitudes, are intelligent, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I’ve dated didn’t even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

And here’s another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

Because they have high standards for themselves, and since most guys are either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it’s rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here’s the good news. These women are the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being a “male 10,” the best man you can be.

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely notice an interesting thing.

Occasionally women that are less attractive will be rude to you and you’ll get an odd responses from them- that is because they know they’re not on your level - I call this as Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some girls will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently…you’ll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their “level.”

The woman will thinks “finally, a guy who can hang with me; he’s confident and treats me like a real person. And he’s the only guy who’s actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car.”

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you’ll also enjoy plenty of “adventures” with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are plenty of 10’s out there waiting for you.

Don’t spend another year of your life missing out.

Vin

It’s not about they’re not smart enough, appealing or somehow defective… It’s actually a subconscious choice, that they have made without knowing.

Are you one of that loser men? Or you want to make sure that you won’t belong to that group…

I’m here to tell you how.

What you will hear from me is a thing that probably would be heard in other gurus. Because it’s  a very subtle but very powerful fix that most of them leave it out of their list.

First let me tell you about Matt. Well, he’s a good guy and likes to socialize. He has taken a bootcamp with another pickup company. But sad to say he still doesn’t get the success his looking for; in fact he’s not successful at all.

Wondering if I have given him a help?? No. I didn’t. An attempt maybe but nothing follows.

There are reasons why I didn’t help him. One being he’s too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things. The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

As I said Matt’s a good guy, but every time I talk with him he’s giving a vibe like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

He always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is good, but obviously you will feel a vibe saying he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens when he’s talking to women. He treats them well and nicely  but he always gives off this vibe that on the corner of his mind he is up into an underlying intention.

That why we don’t like hanging out with him and neither do women.

We do all have intentions with and it isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they’ll accept it, especially if you have good game techniques. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you or feel safe being alone with you. You could be the best actor in a pretending world but not in the real world… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is considered a “Death” card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will destroy any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

To start with, you need to be fun and unattached to the outcome whenever as you can. It could be telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends.  It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Come out there and start talking to women not only for the the purpose of pickup and sleeping with them, but because women are interesting, wonderful and fun to be with.

The next thing you need is to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean that you tell the woman “The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your undies.”  That will instantly kill your pickup as fast as being creepy.

Just do a little changes in your behavior that will affect how your intentions be brought out and if you’re consistent with what you’re saying. You will see your GAME going well.

And there are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

But I don’t think you would want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require… Right? Don’t worry I won’t. I wouldn’t want to spend the months writing that novel either.